Bored? Take The Proust Questionnaire

Marcel Proust, the French essayist and novelist, believed that, in answering these questions, an individual reveals his or her true nature. Here is the basic Proust Questionnaire.

1.__What is your idea of perfect happiness?

2.__What is your greatest fear?

3.__What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?

4.__What is the trait you most deplore in others?

5.__Which living person do you most admire?

6.__What is your greatest extravagance?

7.__What is your current state of mind?

8.__What do you consider the most overrated virtue?

9.__On what occasion do you lie?

10.__What do you most dislike about your appearance?

11.__Which living person do you most despise?

12.__What is the quality you most like in a man?

13.__What is the quality you most like in a woman?

14.__Which words or phrases do you most overuse?

15.__What or who is the greatest love of your life?

16.__When and where were you happiest?

17.__Which talent would you most like to have?

18.__If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

19.__What do you consider your greatest achievement?

20.__If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?

21.__Where would you most like to live?

22.__What is your most treasured possession?

23.__What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?

24.__What is your favorite occupation?

25.__What is your most marked characteristic?

26.__What do you most value in your friends?

27.__Who are your favorite writers?

28.__Who is your hero of fiction?

29.__Which historical figure do you most identify with?

30.__Who are your heroes in real life?

31.__What are your favorite names?

32.__What is it that you most dislike?

33.__What is your greatest regret?

34.__How would you like to die?

35.__What is your motto?

On Generosity :: Three Wishes

“A fight is going on inside me,” said an old man to his son. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves. One wolf is evil. He is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other wolf is good. He is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. The same fight is going on inside you.” The son thought about it for a minute and then asked, “Which wolf will win?” The old man replied simply, “The one you feed.” — Wendy Mass, Jeremy Fink and the Meaning of Life

We don’t focus on generosity in our culture these days. Kids are exposed to sarcasm, cynicism and snark to a much larger degree. Snark sells. But generosity, giving of yourself more than is necessary or expected, will be remembered. A sarcastic comment or cynical act will be forgotten tomorrow. An act of generosity will be a significant marker and memory in someone’s life forever. I wish for my kids to be funny and weird and at times, sarcastic. But above all, I want to instill in them an altruistic spirit of generosity. Like Ruby:

Like that’s all they wanted. And I really decided that I needed to do something.
— Ruby

Cup O' Coffee and the Sunday Paper

Hoping you’re having a loungy, lazy Sunday. Here’s a few of the articles I read this past week I liked quite a bit.


On Likability by Lacy M. Johnson - This one says a lot about what’s wrong with our society.

My daughter comes home from school at least once a week and announces to me that no one likes her. She has done something that is too weird, or bold, or has said a thing with which others disagree. She has had to sit alone during lunch or play alone during recess. She even sat on the buddy bench, she tells me, and no one came.



While the average nursing home costs $188 per day, Robison wrote that reservations at the hotel chain cost $59.23 per night with both a long-term stay and senior discount. Factor in free breakfast and happy hour and Robison calculated that would leave $128.77 a day for food and entertainment.

Not to mention, Robison said Holiday Inns offer a spa, swimming pool, workout room, laundry room and a lounge. Of course, complimentary shampoo, soap, toothpaste and razors will rack up savings, too.

Securing a room at the right nursing home may take months, but Robison said reservations for quality customer service can be made now.



What happens when you get off Facebook for four weeks? Stanford researchers found out by Kurt Wagner, Recode - Definitely one “I Liked” and shared with my “Friends”

How much would you need to be paid to give up your Facebook account for four weeks?

That was the question a group of researchers from Stanford asked thousands of Facebook users last year in an effort to better understand how the social network affected issues such as political polarization and mental well-being.

The study — which paid some users to abandon Facebook and encouraged others to give it up by using just their self-control — found that cutting Facebook out of your life has a number of consequences. Many of them are positive.



Come with me this morning to the church within our hearts, where the bells are always ringing, and the preacher whose name is Love — shall intercede for us!
— Emily Dickinson

Four months before her twentieth birthday, Emily Dickinson (December 10, 1830–May 15, 1886) met the person who became her first love and remained her greatest — an orphaned mathematician-in-training by the name of Susan Gilbert, nine days her junior. Throughout the poet’s life, Susan would be her muse, her mentor, her primary reader and editor, her fiercest lifelong attachment, her “Only Woman in the World.”

11 Spankin' New Songs I Love This Week


Here’s a playlist of my favorite newly released songs this week featuring The Stroppies, Hayes Carll, Daisy the Great, Mansionair, Pink Sweat$, PicaPica, Harmony Byrne, 0171, J.S. Ondara and Dee White

Favorite New Songs Last Week

Favorite New Songs February 16, 2019

Favorite New Songs February 9, 2019

Favorite New Songs February 2, 2019

Favorite New Songs January 26, 2019

Favorite 100 Songs 2018

Favorite 100 Songs 2017

Not Waving But Drowning :: A Poem by Stevie Smith

Not Waving but Drowning by Stevie Smith

Nobody heard him, the dead man, But still he lay moaning: I was much further out than you thought And not waving but drowning. Poor chap, he always loved larking And now he’s dead It must have been too cold for him his heart gave way, They said. Oh, no no no, it was too cold always (Still the dead one lay moaning) I was much too far out all my life And not waving but drowning.


Snaps & Buckles & Things

Kermit at the Club

Kermit at the Club

Thursdays have Friday envy. A few stories that made me laugh this week:

  • What date number is a burp okay? This and other food etiquette questions answered here.

  • American children are speaking with British accents and parents are blaming Peppa The Pig.

  • Timber is an app from Husqvarna that describes itself as “The First Ever Dating Service for Trees”

  • No thank you very much. Men are joining Masturbation Clubs.

  • Maybe everyone is at the Masturbation Club because Sex in the Park isn’t what it used to be.

  • 1970s Basement Boys rejoice! Now you can hit the Masturbation Club then head over to your buddies basement and practice lightsaber dueling. It’s now an official Olympic sport.

  • This dude is celebrating like he just visited the Masturbation Club. “Big Fella, shut it down!”:

Michael Chabon for Ricky Jay

I enjoyed this brief heart-felt essay written by one of my favorite authors about one of my favorite actor/magician/book collector/person. Read this adaptation of Michael Chabon’s eulogy for Ricky Jay.

The first time I saw Ricky Jay perform was sometime around 1976, on The Mike Douglas Show. Ricky was beheading roses and puncturing watermelons with one of the simple playing cards that, in his hands, became a deadly missile. He was wearing a three-piece suit but he had a long beard, and hair down to his waist, and my grandmother, watching with me, thought he looked like a degenerate. I thought he was the coolest human I had ever seen, and that impression only deepened when, many years later, I was lucky enough to get to know him…(continue here…)