People Are Strange :: Daily Grind #167

I’m so happy because today I found my friends - they’re in my head.
— Kurt Cobain

I'm a people person. But probably not in a good way. 

Maybe I should say, people fascinate me. I like to watch them and tear apart their little idiosyncrasies. I like to study their every move that makes them...them. I'm amazed at how similar we all are, and yet how it's these little nuances that make us all so very different. 

Example A, in line the other day at a coffee place, I'm watching the guy in front of me study the menu board. His right hand rubbing his goatee. I do that. Probably a lot. In thought, my right hand raises involuntary, like breathing, starts stroking my chin. But this guys left hand was what set him apart and really got my attention. He was tapping his left hand on his left thigh in rhythm to the song playing on the coffee house sound system. He was really going at it. I wondered if he even knew he was doing it. In the brief pause between songs, this guy's hand paused. The music started again, the hand in perfect rhythm, began tapping again too. So, one of my little idiosyncrasies kicked in, and I immediately began constructing a backstory for this new character in the play I call my life. 

His name was Jesse and he was the original drummer for Nirvana. Full name, Jesse Wankstainer. (As a teen, he had a brief run in porn movies and decided to keep the stage name.) Cobain had met Jesse years earlier at a Rotary Club mixer back in Aberdeen, Washington. (For some reason, I always remember that's where Cobain was from.) They started playing a few small gigs  around Seattle. I imagined American Bandstand style shows with screaming girls crying in the front row. Jesse and Kurt in long sleeve plaid shirts tucked into Lee jeans. Hair long but not yet full on Castrol motor oil greasy Everything was going so well, their manager, who looked a lot like Tom Hanks character from the movie 'That Thing You Do',  told them they were going to be huge and go play the state fair in Topeka! But then Cobain found out Jesse was dating his little sister behind his back. I have no idea if Cobain actually had a little sister, and I also have no idea why it would be such a big deal if Jesse dated her, but damn....Kurt was pissed. Anyway, it was almost my turn to order so I had to finish the story quickly. Kurt and Jesse wound up tussling behind a bowling alley in Spokane. And by "tussling" I mean Cobain mumbled something like, "Hey, stop going around with my sister." And Jesse in a barely audible reply, "No, man." And Kurt just says, "We're donesy, dude."

I laughed a bit under my breath because it's super funny to me to imagine Kurt Cobain saying the word 'Donesy'. For all I knew, there might have been someone directly behind me in line picking up on the fact that there's a guy in line laughing for no apparent reason. Maybe there was and maybe they were making up a story about me in a loony bin with Jack Nicholson. Could be. Just never know. Because people are weird. And that's all I'm saying. People are weird and I'm people. But my backstory for strangers based on their little nuances isn't that strange is it? I bet most people do that. It's not nearly as strange as say, drawing penises in the sky with a jet or flying from Britain to Brazil just to take a bath. So, happy Friday and let's enjoy some more weird people in today's Daily Grind.

People Are Strange :: Daily Grind #167

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10 Strange Things & NEW MUSIC FRIDAY

The Navy holds its aircrew to the highest standards and we find this absolutely unacceptable, of zero training value and we are holding the crew accountable.
— Naval Air Officials

Sky Penis - It's not a bird or a plane.

The Swim Reaper - Instagram's latest star is really killer.

American Weirdos - Things Europeans find weird about Americans:

"I went to Brazil for a bath." - Formula One racer Lando Norris effectively flew all the way from Britain to Brazil this week just to take a bath.

Universal Theme Park or A Waste Incinerator? - Thousands of tourists from around the world are mistakenly flocking to a garbage incineration in Osaka Japan.

Weird Trailer O The Day (NSFW) - Deadpool 2 channeling Bob Ross:

Beef On The Trifle - One of many Weird Thanksgiving Traditions.

Sweet Cheese Balls - India gives 'king of sweets' a geographical tag to end bitter rivalry.

Strange Punishment - Kudos to this mom for thinking outside the box when your son got suspended from school.

How Much Is That Baby Art In The Window? - Is this art or just some nightmare inducing demon from the netherworld?

New Music Friday - It's still a bit weird for me to have new music come out on Fridays. I grew up when new music came out on Tuesdays. I still remember my mom driving me to the Salem Mall after school whenever a new Blondie album would come out. Yes, Blondie. I love Debbie Harry and always will. Anyhoo, here's todays release roundup of all the new music out today: Fits, Barenaked Ladies, Green Day, Iron Maiden, Charlotte Gainsbourgh, Natallie Merchant, Paloma Faith, Morrissey, Sia, Sharon Jones and the Dap Kings, Tim McGraw & Faith Hill, Shredders, Madness, Christy Moore, Baths, Black Sabbath, Karl Blau, Burial, OCS, Tom Chaplin, Galactic Cowboys, Mavis Staples and Bob Seger.

Song O The Day - Weirds "Old World Blues" @weirdsband

Emotional Intelligence :: Daily Grind #166

The intellect is always fooled by the heart.
— La Rochefoucauld

Emotional Intelligence :: Daily Grind #166

What's the earliest memory you have? My wife claims to remember things from the earliest age of three-years-old. And remember them clearly. I have memories from possibly four or five, but they are broken and fragmented; missing frames from a water-damaged movie shot in the seventies. I have a recurring thought when I'm playing with my kids, "How much of this are they going to remember?" Right in the middle of a good time and that's the bubble that pops up in my head. I remember so little of my childhood clearly, I worry I may be experiencing early onset dementia. I don't think my memory really kicked in until age seven or eight, but once it did I remembered everything. I used to remember names, dates, faces, news blurbs, quotes, book titles, movie dialogue, jokes, birthdays, song lyrics both real and made-up, roads, actors, presidents, channel I don't even remember breakfast yesterday.

I asked my son the other day what was his earliest memory.  He replied, "Riding in the car and you asked me, "Where's the bus?!" and I pointed to it and yelled, "There it is!". I have that conversation on tape. He was three, so maybe he takes after his mother. As for me, I actually don't think I have a memory problem. I think I have a caring problem. I used to file things away and save them later because I thought, "This might be important later." Now, I realize the things I care to remember are usually the things I know I'll never be able to forget. And those are always the things that make me think or the things that make me feel. And as you grow older, those things aren't grandiose or even really newsworthy.

The other day, I was in the kitchen making a pot of coffee. I looked out the window and saw my daughter standing outside on the deck with her arms crossed waiting. The leaves were falling in slow motion around her and it was grey and rainy, but she was wearing a bright purple sequined skirt blowing like a flag in the breeze. She was smiling about something only she knew. This. I thought. I'll remember this.

When she came back inside, I asked her what she was thinking about out there. She said, "I was remembering something funny that happened at school today." 

"What was it?" I asked.

She answered, "I don't remember."

"But you were just out there smiling about it. How could you forget that quickly?"

She shrugged and started playing on her iPad.

She might take after me.




Will You Remember Me? - Coming to terms with everything my daughter won’t remember.

Critical Thinking - You need more than just critical analysis skills—you need to value using them.

Introducing “the Paperfuge,” a 20-cent centrifuge that can spin biological samples at thousands of revolutions per minute:

Creepy Stalker - How does Facebook figure out everyone you've ever met?

The World Spins Madly On - This performance called "Celui qui tombe" (Whoever Falls) by French choreographer and acrobat Yoann Bourgeois begs to be made fun of...but also made me feel something by the end. So, I posted it for you to decide:

Are You Open Minded? - It's easy to be open to those who share our own value system, but how can we train our brain to become more open to people who see the world differently?

Jimmy Fallon teared up acknowledging the death of his mother in a touching moment on the Tonight Show and then Taylor Swift dedicated her new song 'Happy New Year's Day' to Jimmy in an unscheduled performance:

Mental Yoga - After a spate of trauma and loss, Maura Kelly retreats to the Hudson Valley and finally sees the forrest for the trees.

Throwback Thursday - When Jim Henson died in 1990, Disney Imagineers sent a drawing of Mickey Mouse consoling Kermit to his mourning company:


Song O The Day :: Grace Vanderwaal "Escape My Mind" @GraceVanderWaal

Bookish And Introverted :: Daily Grind #165

I cannot remember the books I have read any more than the meals I have eaten; even so, they have made me.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

I once had a girlfriend interrupt me in the middle of a really good part of a really good book. She wanted me to take a personality quiz to see if I was an introvert or an extrovert. I politely put down the book and said okay. Midway through the first question, as I was thinking about all the places I could hide her body, I decided I must be an introvert.

Bookish And Introverted :: Daily Grind #165


New Book Releases, Book Links, A Slow Song for Tuesday and Different Kinds of Libraries

The Land of Story-Books

At evening when the lamp is lit,
Around the fire my parents sit;
They sit at home and talk and sing,
And do not play at anything.

Now, with my little gun, I crawl
All in the dark along the wall,
And follow round the forest track
Away behind the sofa back.

There, in the night, where none can spy,
All in my hunter’s camp I lie,
And play at books that I have read
Till it is time to go to bed.

These are the hills, these are the woods,
These are my starry solitudes;
And there the river by whose brink
The roaring lions come to drink.

I see the others far away
As if in firelit camp they lay,
And I, like to an Indian scout,
Around their party prowled about.

So, when my nurse comes in for me,
Home I return across the sea,
And go to bed with backward looks
At my dear land of Story-books.
— Robert Louis Stevenson

The Future Library - A few years ago, in a forest just outside of Oslo, 1000 trees were planted. In 2114, after a century of growth, the trees will be cut down and made into paper for an anthology of books. Meet the Future Library, an artwork by Katie Paterson.

The Map of An Introverts Brain:


Chapter & Verse - New book releases today include titles from Joe Biden, Andy Weir, Gregory Boyle, Janet Evanovich, David Baldacci, Aly Raisman, Oliver Jeffers, Min Jin Lee and TIna Brown.

The Terrific Ten - When James Kimmel was nine or 10-years-old, he created, wrote and illustrated a comic book in the vein of “The Fantastic Four.” The comic featured half-a-dozen more characters, many with questionable — at best — superpowers. For Jimmy Kimmel’s 50th birthday, friends of the ABC personality turned his creation into a live-action movie trailer. J.J. Abrams directed the effort, which starred Ben Affleck, Jennifer Aniston, Zach Galifianakis, Jason Bateman, Will Arnett, Cousin Sal, Jon Hamm, Shaq, Ty Burrell, Billy Crudup, Jake Tapper and Wanda Sykes:

54 Pick Up - Fifty-four celebrities select their favorite books of 2017.

The Human Library - "A place where real people are on loan to readers. A place where difficult questions are expected, appreciated and answered."

Product O The Day - ThinOptics are the reading glasses so slim you can fit them in a case on the back of your phone:

Outsold By Only The Bible & Shakespeare - The secret to Agatha Christie’s enduring appeal.

Mental Yoga - How to remember what you read.

Holding On For Love - A granddaughter posted anonymously on Reddit, with a simple but heartbreaking caption. "My Grandma, 96, with my Grandpa, 100, hours before her death this weekend. 77 years of marriage."


Tuesday Balladry :: Paul Thomas Saunders "Holding On For Love" @PaulTSaunders